Teachers Want Parents to Know
All Teachers want Parents to Know.......
Most of the time the parents and teachers are fighting with one another in order to educate their child. Nowadays, most of the parents are having only one or two children and they don’t want to strict with them. Also some parents are not aware that in which class/school their child is studying. Most of the parents are expecting their children to study well by scoring good marks/grades without any obstacles. Schooling is not a gimmick or trick to mould your children by hypnotism, mesmerism or fascinating power. Schooling is nothing but to instruct, train, educate, teach, drill, prepare and discipline to your children. It is an institution that specializes in teaching a particular skill and a place or period of activity regarded as providing knowledge or experience. It is also to exert control or discipline over somebody or yourself.
1. Know the value of learning at home
2. Separate your own learning style from your child's
3. Check with your child's teacher to determine if extra help is necessary
4. College isn't the only successful option after schooling...
5. Don't keep important information from your child's teacher
6. Come to school meetings with an open mind and attitude
7. Don't say, "Well, he doesn't do this at home."
8. Remember that teachers are professionals with lots of training, college degrees, and ongoing professional development
9. Once you backhander money to the management for your children’s admission, you are in deal with the management that education as business:
10. Treat your child with respect and be a role model:
Why, exactly, are we fighting one another? This is supposed to be a teamwork thing and, in some instances, I see a whole lot of us Vs them on the educational front. The expected output of both are not same in some angle, since most of the parents needs better marks/grades based on the educational system, but the teachers are not only capable to teach the subjects in the class rooms, but also to mould good quality out put for the future. If he/she shines in the future, the proud belongs to the parents first and then to the school/college where he studied.
I thought it is time to hear from teachers about what they wish parents knew and, boy, did I get an earful. As a family member of the teaching community, there isn't one thing on this list that I didn't entirely agree with. Now I'm a Manager in charge of staff recruitment and doing personal counseling, so I get to hear from parents far more regularly and passionately. I asked some teachers what they wanted parents to know about, and this is a culmination of this research.
1. Know the value of learning at home
Every child will be able to adopt the quality and process of learning by hearing the mother's words and it starts from the womb of its mother. So, practice of learning starts from home as an intuition. One College Lady professor says even though parents swear they are making their child read at home, she isn't seeing evidence of it in the classroom. Children won't be good writers if they're not good readers. This is also true of math. If you don't make your children practice at home, then you're expecting all of that learning to take place at school. I've heard from many parents, "It's YOUR job to teach. I don't have to do that." That is exactly the wrong attitude about education. They learn from home first.
2. Separate your own learning style from your child's
My friend and parent advocate, suggested that parents who are frustrated with their kids should adjust their own teaching styles. When I realized my son Rathish had a completely different learning style than myself, I let his father and sister take over homework duties with him. Lots of children are completely different from their parents. It's also important not to say, "I was never good at such-and-such, so he's not going to be, either." So what if I wasn't good at math in high school? That's no reason to give my child the excuse to lower his or her expectations of themselves. The illiterate parents expects their child to become an educator, doctor or an engineer, etc. The child of a doctor are forced to undergo medical studies, since he/she is the next generation to look after their parent's business. But such an act of forcing should not take place, instead they should encourage the child and give room for better study and earn lot of knowledge.
3. Check with your child's teacher to determine if extra help is necessary
One of my friend Arulraj noted that too many kids are being sent to tutoring services when they don't actually need it. Some could use the enrichment or extra help, but parents sometimes spend a lot of unnecessary money trying to help their child. Teachers have the expertise to tell if your child actually needs more assistance, and we know how they can get it. Just ask. For a moderate and disobedient child requires, tracking the school records and whereabouts outside by the parents, since it is their responsibility. All the way, the teacher will not take the responsibility for your children. Please remember your child's class teacher's way of teaching might be differs from that of tutors or tuition teacher. Every day lessons are taught in the class rooms by the respective class teachers and in tuition, it is not at all possible to co-op, since students from various schools may come. It is better for a student is studying in the class rooms should be done as home work at tuition centre with individual attention from the tutor is more useful than comon tuition in order to clear the doubts. Such an extra work to clear doubts can be arranged in most of the schools nowadays provided with the help of parents.
4. College isn't the only successful option after schooling...
Pushing children in one direction exacerbate the academic failure that's prevalent in schools today. Many professional teachers know former students who have experienced career success without a college degree. College is great and helpful, but it isn't for everyone. Don't be offended if teachers suggest as much. Try to study your child’s interest and make them as they wish. Otherwise, convince them to study as per your wish, but it should not by your wish at later stage. If not convinced as per your wish, better encourage them and you should watch them not to deviate the original path of their selection. You should always support them in all stages of education. I agree that education is nowadays based on the job opportunities. For example, if your child wants to become a sports person, you should encourage them with all supports (100%), provided he/she should take special care of their "Body and Mind care" as for as sports person is concerned. My son is interested in Cricket at his school days, but his physic and my physical support to encourage in this field is not capable. So, I convinced him not to play Cricket and so on.... Now, he completed his Master Degree in Engg. and planning to apply for doctorate in the same group by working as Asst. Professor. Too much of any thing is good for nothing.
Basement of study is purely based on the Pre KG to V Std observation. Future is uncertain, hence, we should prepare our children to overcome the obstacles. Discussing, sharing and playing with your children is the best medicine for mould your child.
5. Don't keep important information from your child's teacher
Tell us what your child needs and what works for them at home. An educator from USA, says when teachers don't know if a child needs extra help with learning, it can make it difficult to instruct them. If something works for you at home, let's try it at school, too. After my daughter's diagnosis of sickness, I wrote clear letters to her principal/teachers highlighting her strengths and weaknesses. Otherwise, they may treat her as usual student and ultimately parents are ths sufferers. Ask us what you can do to help us instead of asking, "What are YOU going to do to fix this?" As for as schooling is concerned, they are treating every student as same and based on our request they may extend some sort of grace to children like this.
6. Come to school meetings with an open mind and attitude
Academic success will come differently for every child, and we have to work together as a team to achieve it. In my 22 years as an administrator and educator, I've often met parents who were angry because their child hasn't been able to accomplish something yet. Just remember that teachers really do have the best intentions when it comes to teaching, so when you go to your next parent-teacher conference, don't show up on the defensive. Listen to what your child's teacher has to say.
7. Don't say, "Well, he doesn't do this at home."
Well, naturally, right. We don't expect your child to have the same behavior everywhere. We have different expectations for our children at church and at the water park. Unless you're asking your child to learn, listen, and be engaged for extended periods of time, don't tell us they don't do the same stuff at home.
7.1: Very strict and more liberal are two contrast methods and both are two extremes, but both are to be avoided. As a parent you should know, at his/her age, what is good for them and what is not to be given. Most of the higher class people are spoiling their children by encouraging through lavish spending. It is better not to scold or command before opposite sex students. Avoid blaming teachers or your child for any failures provided you have a strong instinct or indication.
8. Remember that teachers are professionals with lots of training, college degrees, and ongoing professional development
Teachers are doing an amazing job of instructing a variety of different learners in their classrooms, and they feel beaten down when parents view them as the enemy. We don't expect you to agree with every thing we do or expect from your child, but we do deserve to be listened to as professionals. Treat us with respect, and your children will learn to treat people with respect, too.
9. Once you backhander money to the management for your children’s admission, you are in deal with the management that education as business:
Your children will be more vicious in nature, since you sold out your child to the school management. They are also very less chance to regulate your child. He/she will not able to adopt easily since your child will always upper handed in all the discipline related matters.
9.1: . Ask the teacher to give importance for discipline, if required you may give permission to beat the child with wooden scale:
Teachers are regularizing the discipline and they are in a position to give importance to follow rules and regulations of the school management. In general the input of the child may be good or bad, rich or poor, duplicate or genuine but the ultimate output should be good, complete and genuine. It is better try to speak positive and applauded words with your children.
I am seeing your face turning pale that you are angry with me by just reading these words "beat the child with stick". Naturally, no one like to beat their children by an outsider. But here in this context, there is a psychological effect plays among them and bind with one another, since the teacher treat the child with special attention and the child is also gives respect whenever the teacher interacts. This psychology works out in my son's XII std. since he got SCHOOL FIRST in Tamil subject in the final exam, but at the time of meeting with Tamil teacher(3 months before Final exam), she was afraid of even fail in the subject. Here you should know one thing clearly, "all the teachers are not like to beat or scold their students, since they adopt them as their child for the whole acdamic year".
10. Treat your child with respect and be a role model:
The best approach would be to treat your child as respectfully as you yourself would like to be treated.
If you are a smoker, you can’t insist your child not to smoke.
It is very important for children to feel safe and this can start at home by hanging one or two family portraits around the house, or pictures of them with their siblings and "words of God" in their bedrooms -a great way of giving them a sense of belonging.
Try not to argue with your spouse in front of the children. If they are sleeping, argue quietly. Children may feel insecure and fearful when they hear parents bickering. Also, children will learn to argue with each other the same way as they hear their parents argue with each other. The best way to deal with this is to show them that when people disagree, they can discuss their differences peacefully.
It is better to appreciate even for small work undertaken by your children.
Practice using the necessary formal words like "sorry, thanks, good morning, praise the Lord, have a good season, Greetings, etc". Proverbs 22: 6 Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. We are technologically updated now and then and be sure that you are also updating since the generation gap may be reduced.
As a parent, we should taught that IT IS MOST IMPORTANT THAT such inflammatory or provocative words should be avoided while using Face Book (FB), etc. in the social networking web sites. Also the usage of mobile by our children to be noticed and late night phone calls to be avoided.
The Bible says in Proverbs 21:31 "The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but victory rests with the LORD". So, it is our liability to live practical life before our children and make them work hard for their efforts and the victory lies with the Lord.
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